This page is to answer the question recently asked, as to how and if self discipline brings success, and how you can master this understanding for yourself.
You can also ask any other questions of your own, if you wish.
There are two things to establish;
- How we define ‘success’
- And whether the ‘discipline’ element you engage with is healthy (in your best interests)
First of all, if we answer the question, does self discipline actually bring success; yes, it does. It can.
How Self Discipline Brings Success
Provided the goals are those which fulfill you, and the approach you take to them is healthy; wise, balanced, in your best interests, then the movement or change of direction of your habits and actions from undisciplined to disciplined will have to result in a greater movement towards that which you wish to achieve, because you are taking those actions which are in alignment with the achievement of the goal.
This is a simple point, and so that’s all we need to say on that, so we simply look at those first two key elements again.
“Never engage in a battle until its success is already won.” – Sun Tzu
They are the keys which actually determine the outcomes in advance, because they determine whether what you set in motion is good or bad – desirable or undesirable. And as we will see in the final conclusion, it is all about uncovering what is best and right for you.
Is Your Self-Discipline Healthy?
So what do we mean by whether the discipline element is healthy, or not? Well, simply whether it is in your own best interests, or not.
When you think about engaging in self-discipline, is it something that feels healthy, because it’s reflecting and respecting your whole self? Or is it creating a pull, a conflict in you, which is making you incongruent and at odds with yourself?
- Note that just because something is challenging and requiring an effort doesn’t necessarily mean you are at odds with it. A challenge can be a very creative and fulfilling part of your own life experience or growth.
- On the other hand, you might be totally forcing yourself against your own best inner wisdom, perhaps to do something to try to please other people.
You have to use your Sensory Acuity to determine which of these two possibilities is the case for you.
So the first key to self-discipline is aligning who you really are (your wisdom and your truest, deepest most authentic self) with your goals.
Once you have established that your goal is true, then you can set about the self-discipline to bring it about – in a way in which you are at one with yourself. You are congruent.
Will Your Success Fulfill You?
“Success without fulfillment is nothing” and “Success without fulfillment is failure.”
The first element of success then becomes somewhat taken care of, as a safe definition of success is that it fulfills you – it leaves you feeling fulfilled. Hence the saying, ‘success without fulfillment is nothing, or failure. It’s a false pursuit, a waste of time. It’s pursuing something that actually won’t fulfill you, and so is essentially a waste of time. The key to saving that time is recognizing in advance what will truly fulfill you.
The way you do this is with a ‘Thought Experiment’ – you play it through in your mind and see how you truly feel about the idea of achieving this thing. And if you find that you achieve the thing and it turns out that it doesn’t fulfill you, well then you simply put it into your experience ‘databanks’, and it makes you better and more likely to get the next time right with this useful information.
Applying The Principle of Grace to Self Discipline
In using and applying self discipline to bring about success we need to talk about Grace. Grace is a very important element in the mastery of desire. Your desires can be true, but even then it can still be possible to pursue them in a way that is not true to yourself, or perhaps egoic, which in this instance might mean forced, needy, contrived, desperate, and so on. And so it is important to approach self discipline gracefully.
The biggest benefit of this, in this context, is that when you find your discipline failing from time to time, you don’t put too much negative energy and thought into the failure, and simply move on to have another go as best you can the next time – which is all you can do in such instances, as you cannot change the past.
So make, or rather allow the discipline to be part of you because it is something true about yourself that you have uncovered, or developed as a skill that you genuinely wanted to develop, rather than a forced, conflict-based imposition that you have grafted onto the side of your life, and allowed to cause you discomfort.
If you get your motives right, your self discipline will flow more and more as you uncover your true desires, abilities and convictions. If it’s something that’s in your heart you will most likely find the conviction and commitment for it, because that sense of truth and goodness will drive you.
Creating Self Discipline
Uncovering Self Discipline
You create self discipline by uncovering it. …or by uncovering the genuine desire to develop the skill.
If you force yourself, all you do is set up an inner conflict with yourself. Forcing yourself is like having an arguing, old married couple living in your head. Nothing efficient ever flowed from trying to force yourself against your own best inner knowing, inner feelings, desires and wisdom!
So make, or rather allow the discipline to be part of you because it is something true about yourself that you have uncovered, or developed as a skill that you genuinely wanted to develop.